My word, she was smoking hot. Like, smoking.

I regret how this ended up working. I had a non-work commitment that had me lugging around equipment. I suggested we meet afterwards, so it was a bit late. She wanted to meet at a quite cool little spot outside of Ebisu, but I wasn't really dressed for it, and plus I had all this equipment. It was a bit ackward. 

But my goodness, was she hot. 

Rii-san was the first meeting where I realized that this was not like dating or going to a girl's bar. 

Every guy that goes to a girl's bar kinda knows what the game is. The girl will pretend to find you funny / attractive / interesting long enough to stick around longer, the longer you stick around and pay for things, the more they make. Most of the time girls make a least a token effort to make small talk etc. 

I was somewhat expecting the same here - but through the first 3 meetings, it's been a struggle to get the conversation going. I was assuming that discussing directly the conditions on which we'd meet again (and/or take it to the next stage -> hotel) would be indelicate, but it seems like girls may want a bit more certainty on that front. 

I'm going to take a different tact for my next meeting.

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259 matchings. 

I proposed a place in Yurakucho, she proposed a place in Ginza, so we went with her restaurant. She made the reservation and sent me the details. 

Wanted 1.5 for the first date - I missed this and thought it was 1 so stiffed her on 0.5, which she noted after our date.

Somewhat cute, not a knockout. More importantly, I'd say, was that the conversation didn't exactly flow. This was only my second-ever date and I'm still trying to figure out how to make small talk at these inital meetings. I guess the girls want some certainty up front

She asked afterwards why I didn't ask to share LINE information, which I hadn't realized was a thing! Good to know.

Given the numerous 20-somethings on the platform, asking for 1.5 at 31 seems a bit ambitious and I'd expect either drop-dead gorgeous looks and/or scintillating conversation, of which I got neither.